ABOUT TOM LYMAN
FROM BROKEN TO BUILT
For years, I looked like I had it all together: Business owner. Husband. Provider. Hustler.
But behind all the success, I was silently drowning in shame, addiction, and self-destruction. I was living a double life—chasing money, hiding secrets, managing addictions, and convincing myself I could fix it all “later.” But later never came. What did come was broken trust, rock bottom, and a long, painful journey back to the man I was created to be.
I'm Tom Lyman, and this is my story.
From the Outside In, I Was Winning.
I built companies. I closed deals. I was the guy people looked to for answers. But behind closed doors, I was addicted to pornography. I abused alcohol and drugs. I betrayed my marriage. I was living with pride, lust, and fear in the driver’s seat—and I believed the lie that I could control it all. I was drowning in isolation and sin, too afraid to tell the truth and too proud to ask for help.
Until it all collapsed.
In 2018, everything came to light. My wife confronted me. I confessed to multiple affairs. We entered therapy and tried to rebuild—but I relapsed.
Eventually, I checked into a 30-day inpatient rehab. It wasn’t about checking a box—it was survival. That’s where the real work started: surrender, Scripture, therapy, support groups, EMDR, confession, discipline, and most of all… learning how to hear the voice of God again.
Even then, I failed again. But God didn’t quit on me.
THE MOMENT THAT CHANGED EVERYTHING
On December 12, 2021, I fully surrendered my life to Jesus Christ. No more pretending. No more excuses. I gave Him everything—my shame, my past, my pride, my future. That was the day I stopped managing sin and started walking in obedience.
It didn’t just change my habits—it changed my heart.
Since then, I’ve committed my life to helping other men walk the same path—from addiction, isolation, and confusion into freedom, purpose, and spiritual strength.
Today, I’m a men’s coach, speaker, podcast host, and founder of The Blueprint Method and The Joy Hour Show. My wife Lana and I also lead Hope Beyond Betrayal, a two-day intensive for couples who are rebuilding trust after infidelity. We live in Dallas, Texas, with our three incredible kids—who we homeschool and raise with intention, transparency, and truth. They’ve seen our mess, and now they get to see our mission.
Our family is far from perfect—but we are healed, honest, and whole. That’s a miracle only God could write.
MY BELIEF
I believe every man has a calling. And I believe most men are secretly stuck—spiritually, emotionally, and relationally.
You don’t beat addiction by trying harder.
You beat it through surrender, structure, brotherhood, and obedience.
You become who God created you to be when you stop performing and start submitting.
“A struggling man brings chaos. A healed man brings peace—and his family flourishes because of it.”
If you're ready to rise, I’d be honored to walk with you.
Let’s rebuild—together.